Find yourself someone who chooses you simply because they want you. Set your heart on someone who can manage just fine without you, but doesn’t want to. Is that really what you want? To be with someone who is nothing without you, to be the only thing holding them together? You deserve someone who is confident in themselves and their choices someone with the passion and the initiative to know what they want and do everything in their power to get it. This is another thing we romanticize: the notion of being something your love can’t live without. That’s an unbalanced love and you’re better than that.ĭon’t be the one they can’t live without. You won’t be equal and neither will your relationship. If you’re what they think they need, what they think they can’t live without, how can you both be on level ground? You need someone who neither looks up to you with gratefulness or down on you as they make their demands. You can’t stand on equal ground with someone who needs you more than they want you. Someone who wants you more than they need you will never hold you back. Find someone who encourages you when it comes to your dreams, who doesn’t fear that pursuing your goals will take away from helping them achieve theirs. Once in a relationship, someone who needs you more than they want you will do everything in their power to hold on to you and they’ll hold on really tight. You’ll know as soon as you find someone who fits the bill because they’ll give you what you need and more. What to do instead: Sad as it is to say, it’s better to end that friendship or relationship completely than it is to turn into someone you dont want to be. It’s nice to feel needed, but refreshing and amazing to be completely wanted. They will appreciate what you do for them, they will be grateful, they will admire you, but you will never be what they truly want. Someone who needs you more than they want you can never make you feel like you’re the one thing they want most in the world. Someone who wants you will be mature enough to carry their own weight and encourage you to carry yours, to achieve their goals and inspire you to chase yours. Don’t be with someone who puts their needs before your own, who makes you tend to their needy little demands before they let you pursue your own goals. Find someone who doesn’t burden you with their troubles every time they arise while making no attempt to reconcile them on their own. Do yourself a favor and demand that much you deserve a whole-hearted love and you can’t have that with someone whose desperate need only drags you down.ĭon’t carry their weight on your shoulders.Ī needy lover is a lazy one. It should be about the give and take between two people who love each other. Someone who needs you more than they want you will be in the relationship with the expectation that you’ll bring them happiness and that your role is to tend to their every little whim. Someone who wants you will be in the relationship with the intention of making you happy.
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